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Ego je neprijatelj

 

Ego je neprijatelj Ego enemy

                 „Ego je neprijatelj“ – Rajan Holidej

 

(Jedna od) definicija: Ego predstavlja svesni deo ličnosti, deo psihe koji se doživljava kao „ja”. Taj sloj ličnosti upoznaje spoljni fizički i socijalni svet na osnovu racionalnih podataka koje prikuplja putem opažanja, pamćenja i mišljenja. To je deo koji pamti, vrednuje, planira i koji na druge načine odgovara i ponaša se u okruženju fizičkog i društvenog sveta. Za razliku od ida, ego se u ponašanju rukovodi principom realnosti; instinkti se ne mogu zadovoljavati samo radi postizanja zadovoljstva. Vodeći računa o realnoj situaciji, ego, makar zaobilazno, nastoji da omogući zadovoljenje onoga čemu nagonski deo teži. Ego odgađa zadovoljenje, bira prihvatljive situacije i prilagođava instinkte realnim uslovima spoljne sredine. Prema Frojdu, on koegzistira sa idom (nesvesnim delom psihe) i superegom (delom koji predstavlja savest ili internalizaciju društvenih normi). Ego ne koegzistira ni sa ličnošću ni sa telom; on pre služi za integrisanje tih i drugih aspekata ličnosti, kao što su mašta i ponašanje. On posreduje između ida i superega gradeći različite odbrambene mehanizme.

 

Postoje tri vrste egoista: egoisti koji sami žive i daju drugima da žive; egoisti koji sami žive, ali ne daju drugima da žive; i na kraju, egoisti koji niti sami žive niti drugima daju da žive – Ivan Turgenjev

Onaj ko se zaljubi u sebe neće imati rivala – Bendžamin Frenklin

Ego je hobotnica sa bezbroj pipaka, hrani se svim oblicima neznanja – Nepoznat autor

 

Ego je neprijatelj

 

Ego…možda i najveći, a najbliži čovekov neprijatelj (Odmah posle promaje – prim.podsvesti). Onaj koji nas dovodi u iluziju, koji hrani našu aroganciju, ponos, svojeglavost, tvrdoglavost, sujetu, koji nas ubeđuje da smo mnogo bolji i veći (nego što možda jesmo) i da zaslužujemo svet na dlanu. Ovo zadnje, na prvi pogled, i ne bi zvučalo toliko strašno, da ego ujedino tim svojim slatkim, zavodničkim pričama, ne uljuljkuje u nekakvu obmanu, i nije baš da nas forsira da se trudimo da budemo bolji. Moto ega bi mogao da bude: “(Nerealne, grandiozne, samoljubive) reči, a ne (moraju puno) dela”.

Ego se grozi vrlina kao što su skromnost, smernost, odmerenost, strpljenje, posvećenost, nesebičnost… on ih vidi kao slabosti, nešto što ne dovodi do uspona na vrh uspeha. Ironija je što i mnogi mediji, suptilno, podržavaju ovaj stav.

Ego je veoma sujetan. Smatra da je uvek u pravu, da on zna najbolje, i da nikada nije kriv za naše neuspehe. Ne, naravno da on nije kriv. Uvek su (i uvek moraju biti) krivi šef, žena, dete, država, vreme, papa… Kako se rešavaju takvi problem? Pa još više ega!

Ego je ono što može (i najčešće) da odvede u propast, ne samo pojedinca, već i čitave države. Zaljubljeni u sebe i ideju o svojoj grandioznosti, pojedinci donose odluke zarad svojih ličnih interesa, često pokušavajući da ih zamaskiraju “interesima naroda”.

Ego je neprijatelj koji će vas odvesti u propast… ako ga ne zauzdate.

Ali, hajde da više ne ulazimo u teoretisanje.

Tema današnjeg časa je knjiga Rajana Holideja, “Ego je neprijatelj”.

Knjiga je podeljena u tri celine, i ulazi u to kako se ego ponaša kod truda, uspeha i neuspeha.

Odmah da kažem na početku, meni se knjiga veoma dopala. Knjiga nije nikakvo naučno-filozofsko istraživanje niti priručnik za oslobađanje ili kontrolisanje ega. Mnogo je jednostavnije… i zanimljivije. 🙂

 

Ego je neprijatelj

 

Kroz biografije (i konkretne događaje) iz života poznatih istorijskih ličnosti, Rajan Holidej nam, u stvari, daje i biografiju ega. Nemojte pogrešno da shvatite, ovo nije knjiga o životima poznatih. Rajan njih uzima za primer, zatim “razbija” na detalje ključne događaje iz njihovih života i pokazuje nam kako je to kada ego kontroliše nas, a kako je kada mi kontrolišemo njega, usput nam postavljajući neka pitanja koja nas teraju da se zamislimo nad našim životnim odlukama koje smo do tada doneli, i koje ćemo tek donositi. Hoće li nama upravljati neka viša svrha, ili ego?

Proživećemo primere gde je ego odveo u propast, i gde je razum vodio u uspeh i sreću, od antičkih vremena do modernog doba. Pogledaćemo odluke generala Vilijema Šermana, stratega Džona “Četrdeset sekundi” Bojda, Kirka Hemeta iz “Metalike”, MMA pionira Frenka Šemrona, političarke Eleonor Ruzvelt, genijalnog Bendžamina Frenklina, trenera “Nju Ingland Pejtriotsa” Bila Belčika, epigramiste Marcijala, Džekija Robinsona (prvi tamnoputi igrač u Prvoj bejzbol ligi), generala Džordža Makelana, kontrozvernog Hauarda Hjuza, osvajača Džingis-kana, legendarnog trenera “Fortinajnersa” Bila Volša, Džulijusa Granta, Ketrin Grejam (“Vašington Post”) i mnogih drugih…i sve to analizirajući njihove dobre i loše odluke. Kao što vidite, lista obuhvata različite (psihološke) profile ličnosti iz različitih doba, tako da avantura definitivno neće biti dosadna!

Stil pisanja je jako prijatan i prijemčiv za čitanje, zbog čega se knjiga teško ispušta iz ruku.

Ja sam uživao u ovoj knjizi i definitvno ću joj se povremeno vraćati.

Ovo je knjiga za sve generacije i uzraste. Nebitno je da li ste tek na početku karijere, sredini ili na zalasku. Nebitno je da li ste zaradili milione ili imate tek dovoljno da preživite. Obavezno pročitajte ovu knjigu i uzmite malo da analizirate svoje životne odluke (i donete, i one koje ćete tek doneti). I usput pokušajte da zauzdate svoj ego, pre nego što on (i sujeta) unište ne samo vas, već i ljude do kojih vam je stalo.

 

A vi, dragi čitaoci, kakva je situacija sa vašim egom? 🙂

 

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Outlive the life

 

Nadživeti život Outlive the life Kenan Crnkić

                 "Outlive the life" - Kenan Crnkic

 

And it is time for the final book in this trilogy Life-Happiness-Success..

And even now, someone might say: „Yeah, yeah, let me guess. Small rugged book, full of interesting and educational stories/anecdotes, filled with quotations and Kenan’s look on life, happiness, friendship... Is it worth to buy the book full of stories that can be found everywhere?

Let me answer honestly: Yes, book is written in similar style similar to the previous one. Thirty-three stories from all over the world, mixed with quotations and Kenan’s thoughts. Is it worth it?

Yes. Simple as that.

For me, it was especially worth it, because it reminded me on some stories that I completely forgot, and I really needed to remember them. And they came to me in the right moment!

Here we will find stories about bearing with temptations and insults, how to recognize true friends, what in life has price and what has value, why it is worth to muster strength and forigve.

 

Nadživeti život Outlive the life Kenan Crnkić

 

I really believe that stories are there to make children go to sleep faster. But, they also exist to „wake up“ adults. To wake them up from their prisons of fears, caves of lethargy, vicious circles of anger and feeling of helplessness.

Sometimes, one simple story can make a larger impact than any piece of advice.

Although this might be even the best book written by Kenan Crnkic (for me, this book and previous one are in dead heat), this one will also have the shortest review.

The reason is simple. Same as previous books, these are type of the books that you read slow, but think about them thoroughly.

Especially carefully check the section that tells about five different types of people and their view of life.

It looks like there is a reason why his books are popular in region. 🙂

 

And you, my dear readers, what is your view of life? 😊

 

 

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Be careful which wolf you feed

 

Pazi kojeg vuka hraniš Kenan Crnkic

 "Be careful which wolf you feed" - Kenan Crnkic

 

And again, Kenan Crnkic. And again, one lovely little rugged book that you can finish in one afternoon.

And again, some familiar stuff is written here.

And again...a good book that you will often return to. 😊

To be honest, I like this book even more than the previous one.

If previous book ("7 secrets to success") talked about success (obviously 😊), then this one talks about happiness.

But, here you won’t find classical rules/laws/skills for reaching happiness.

But, you will find stories and anecdotes, followed with explanations and thoughts.

Yes, you did read this.

Kenan Crnkic put in this book 26 educational stories/tales from all over the world. I believe you even heard for most of them. And every story is followed by Kenan’s thoughts about how stories could be applied to real life situations.

„Oh well...“, someone might notice. „In regards to previous book, this a collection of stories, that are not even his! Sure, he talks a little bit about meaning behind these stories and that’s it! These stories exist in other books as well, on the Internet...why would this book be special?

The answer could be found in counter-question.

When was the last time you have read a book full of stories and anecdotes, which messages could be applied on daily basis?

 

Pazi kojeg vuka hraniš Kenan Crnkic

 

And what is wrong with reading (and learning) from stories?

For me, stories are great example of life experience. I believe, after first-hand experiences, that stories take second place as great and fast learning material. I can tell you that from my own experiences.

And besides that, as kids, stories were everything to us (until we discovered the world of movies and video games :D). It didn’t matter if some told us those stories or we read them by ourselves. They were our portal into an incredible world. But, they also gave us some valuable (life) messages that defined our view of the world. What is good, what is bad, how to be fair and honest, how to deal with tough people, etc...

And then we grew up.

We replaced stories with cheap news articles, full of illusions and tragedies, with barely any good, positive and inspiring news. Or, we might’ve even stop reading. And lessons about happiness we tried to find through some different channels

Or maybe we even stopped looking for happiness.

And that is the reason why it is good to have this type of book with you.

Someone might say: „Well, this is like a dose of motivation! You read it once and done! What’s next?“

But, it is not said without a reason that motivation is like showering – it is recommended on daily basis. 😀

All in all, this book is written in simple style. And that is perfectly fine and enough.

To be honest, I think I like this book even more than the previous one (Strange, I though I said this before?). And, it looks like there is the reason why entire region went crazy for this book.

Almost forgot! Friendly advice! Definitely try to answer all 77 questions in last chapter of the book. Answer them as fast and honest as you can. You will be surprised with your answers. 😊

 

And you, my dear readers, which you wolf do you „feed? 😊

 

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7 secrets to success

 

7 tajni uspeha Kenan Crnkić

       7 secrets to success - Kenan Crnkic

 

Life quite often (or maybe all the time?) has strange and unusual paths. In the period when I decided to reread and review books written by Kenan Crnkic, a news appeared that the mentioned gentleman will hold the promotion of his latest book and a small lecture in Belgrade, in one bookstore in Knez Mihailova Street.

Malo li je reći da je knjižara bila prepuna ljudi željnih da čuju predavanje, a zatim dobiju potpisanu knjigu i slikaju se sa Kenanom Crnkićem? A oni koji su želeli, mogli su i da po par minuta popričaju nasamo sa njim o temama koje su ih interesovale. Zaista zanimljiv i neobičan čovek, moram priznati, čak i kao da je pomalo mističan…ali, više o tome neki drugi put. 🙂

Da se okrenemo knjizi…

„7 tajni uspeha“ je prva knjiga dr. Kenana Crnića. Knjiga je manjeg formata, nešto preko 100 strana. Hm, zanimljivo… sedam tajni ushpeha smešteno u jedno popodnevno čitanje. Malo? Ili možda taman koliko treba? A i koje su to tajne?

  • Definiši cilj
  • Zauzmi ispravan stav
  • Napravi plan
  • Usvoji pobedničke navike
  • Brendiraj sebe
  • Poveži se (networking)
  • Spoznaj svrhu

Knjiga je prožeta citatima, tehnikama, objašnjenjima, savetima i anegdotama kojima se pokušava objasniti kako da se pronikne u tajne uspeha.

I ovde ću se zaustaviti na samom opisu knjige. Da, da, znate da se uvek raspišem o tome šta se dešava u nekoj knjizi, ali ovde ću napraviti izuzetak.

A sada ću vam i objasniti zašto.

 

7 tajni uspeha Kenan Crnkić

 

Dok budete čitali (a i kada završite) knjigu, možda ćete se osećati blago zbunjeni. Hajde to što se knjiga brzo pročita, nego su i tehnike opisane u ovoj knjizi dosta bazične (i logične), i, ako ste već bili u dodiru sa knjigama iz oblasti komunikacije, motivacije, marketinga ili sličnog, prepoznaćete veliki deo toga i u ovoj knjizi. Ali, ovde stvari postaju zanimljive.

Možda ima veze sa tim što je Kenan Crnić doktor ekonomskih navika i s obzirom na njegovu životnu priču. A možda i nema veze.

A to (poenta) je da knjiga nema „prazan hod“. Dobijate knjižicu koja kao da se trudi što jednostavnije i što više sažme šta je ono što bi bilo poželjno da razumete i uradite da biste bili korak bliže svojoj viziji uspeha.

Svako poglavlje počinje pričicom, koju prati objašnjenje, a zatim je praćeno savetima i tehnikama, a na sve to se prožima i citatima poznatih i uspešnih ličnosti. I lep je (i koristan) detalj da ti citati nisu tu tek tako random ubačeni, već zaista lepo uobličavaju svako poglavlje.

U ovoj knjizi nećete naići na „praznu filozofiju“ ili titranje čitaocu, samo direktne i iskrene činjenice.

Nemojte pogrešno da shvatite, stil pisanja nije „hladan“. Naprotiv, imate osećaj kao da ste se našli na kafi sa piscem, i prijateljski razgovarate na temu uspeha. Opušteno, ali direktno i bez okolišanja.

Knjiga ima i simpatičan detalj, poput ogledala umesto uvodnog dela (što me je odmah asociralo na Napoleona Hila). Pametan i poučan detalj i dobar podsetnik ko nam je najveći saveznik u životu.

Meni se dopalo podsećanje na SMARTI tehniku. Da, dobro ste pročitali, ne SMART, nego SMARTI. Odličan podsetnik kako cilj ne može biti SMART ako nema ono I… hehe, kapirate? Ne? Dobro… uh, ovo je trebalo da bude duhovita igra reči (Humor ostavi meni, nesrećo! Samo se ti drži pisanija – prim.podsvesti).

Sve u svemu, definitivno nije bez razloga zašto su knjige Kenana Crnića veoma popularne i tražene u regionu. Ima nešto u njegovim rečima. U svakom slučaju, pročitajte i sami se uverite.

 

I kako se vama, dragi čitaoci, sve ovo čini? 🙂

 

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The 5 AM Club: Own Your Morning. Elevate Your Life

 

Budni u 5

The 5 AM Club: Own Your Morning. Elevate Your Life - Robin Sharma

 

I have a great respect for Robin Sharma. I really believe that there is great strength behind his words and that he is not (and will never be) one of those that write generic texts in motivational books.

Ever since "The monk who sold his Ferrari", Robin keeps trying to return people on the path of believing in yourself. Some people criticized him that he writes/speaks too idealistically and that is not simple to apply his views of success and happiness on modern world. But, between those motivational writers/speakers that write (literally) fairy tales and fantasies in their books, and others that play on the card of rough (and painful) realism and pragmatism, Robin carves his own path of...let's just call it... "idealistic realism", that makes people like his words/thoughts, but that also makes people believe that Robin's ideas are achievable. And I believe that is the reason why people like and respect Robin.

 

success villa money wealth Budni u 5

 

But now, I will focus on the book itself.

Due to circumstances (or fate), one unhappy lady entrepreneur and one "lost" artist become the students of Mr. Riley Stone, one weird and silly, but then again, zen-calm businessman-millionaire. With the help of mysterious motivational speaker, "the Wizard", Riley Stone introduces two lost souls to the unusual club of early risers, with the goal to shows them how they can as well lead wonderful and fulfilled life, in every aspect of their life. Financial, spiritual, health...you name it.

The essence of this book is complex, yet actually quite simple. In this book, Robin Sharma incorporated all of his knowledge, learning and researches in the fields of success and happiness. And if you dedicate years (more like, decades) to these subjects, you ought to know something, right? 🙂

And everything starts with early rising, a little bit before 5 AM, and the maximum usage of those few hours (before you go to, for example, work or university). Mr Riley transfers all of his knowledge and practical techniques to lady entrepreneur and artist, with the intention to cover all important life aspects, that would lead to perfect life balance, as a final goal. And I think that is something that we all desperately search for.

I have to share something with you guys. Almost 75% of the book didn't impress me. The meaning of early rising, morning exercises, meditation, writing in a journal, sleeping cycles... I already knew all of this, or it was familiar to me from my own personal researches. But... I realized that I should be happy with this discovery! Both Robin Sharma and I (and I believe some other people), on our own ways, came to the same conclusions. This might actually mean that combinations of mentioned techniques could bring us closer to success and happiness. Or (emotional and financial) freedom, if you prefer. And this is also at the same time the great plus for this book!

 

robin sharma motivation coach mentor Budni u 5

 

And the last 50-60 pages...man! The thoughts were so strong, emotional, beautifully shaped and inspirational that, in one moment, I realized that I was smiling I was reading them. And felt some kind of calmness and peace.

The book is well written and understandable, though I would really like to read in original (English) language as well, just to be sure that some words haven't lost meaning in translation.

This is the book that you will often return to, and that will require you patience, so that you can grasp the true essence of some things. I can guarantee you that there is truth behind Robin's word in this book. And lots of it is really applicable and can be quite efficient.

And so, I decided as well to try my luck with joining the 5AM club as well. 🙂

 

And are you, my dear friends, ready to try your luck with the 5AM club? 🙂

 

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The 5 Second Rule

 

 

I think it is the best to start (and also end) the review of this book by trying to answer three most common questions about this book that are buzzing the Web:

  • Should I really read this book if I already saw videos on Youtube about "the 5 second rule" (in further text: 5SR)?
  • Is this book more focused on "copy/paste" of people's posts from Facebook, Twitter and Instagram how 5SR changed their lives (and how they are praising Mel Robbins)?
  • Does the 5SR really work?

Answering the first question is not easy at all, because of one simple reason. 5SR is a simple rule, and the way it functions is simple as well. That moment, when you hear your instinct "whispering" you to do something, that might actually benefit you (your goal or cause), you have to count "5,4,3,2,1" and ACT before your brain stops you with his (its?) dilemmas, fears and other methods that will kill the action. And that's about it!

Mel's 5SR is not some revolutionary discovery. That is something that existed from time immemorial and will continue to exist in future in different forms. Instinctive reaction, "1,2,3 and HOP" or "count to 10 to calm yourself", etc... For me, five seconds Mel is talking about presents:

- Reacting with instinct, before brain rushes in with five million "arguments" why something will not work, and all of this in attempt to protect you (oh, irony of life!). That is why you have "5 second window" before your brain goes rampage with his arguments and rules over the instinct

- Short-term distraction of brain by sending him a note that, by counting backwards, he must fulfill some action when countdown is over. This will temporary stop brain from thinking the ways to protect you (or is it better to say - sabotage you?) from doing something

To answer the second question is even more challenging than the first one. It is undeniable fact, at least half of the book (if not more) are comments from people on social networks how 5SR helped them/changed their life. Is this also the way Mel Robbins is glorified and promoted? Maybe. Mel knows that the best. However, Mel didn't put those comments/accolades randomly. She really did her best to put them in appropriate chapter.

You need to understand and respect one thing. In this book, Mel also speaks a lot about her life failures, and how 5SR saved her from downfall. Also, besides other people's confessions, in this book there are lots of scientific facts Mel gathered about brain (and the way it thinks), procrastination and other. Honestly, you really have to judge for yourself what is the answer to the second question.

 

Pravilo 5 sekundi

 

It is actually the easiest to answer the final, third question (oh, the irony). And the answer is - YES. As incredible as it sounds (and remember, this is coming from person who tries to remain objective and realistic as much as possible when it comes to books about "poppsy" or "populogy", how I renamed term "popular psuchology" 😀 ). And, if you look a little better about this book reviews and marks, you will notice something interesting. Criticism of this book is usually focused on how book might not be necessary because of YouTube videos, how there are too many comments from other people and how they glorify Mel...but I didn't notice that anyone said anything negative about the 5 second rule itself.

And why would they? The rule is simple to use, or as Mel said it better: "To apply the Rule is simple, but I never said it is easy".Your decision/intention to apply the Rule, like for everything else in life, is the decisive factor. Countdown helps, because it clearly shows you that it is certain that you will have to act, no matter how scary it is. But, if you get scared (who said tremble like a chicken? 😀) give or just start saying "threeeeeee, twoooooo, oneeeeeee......zeeeroooo......minus oneeeee.......minus twooooooo" and hesitate, it is not Mel Robbins' fault that 5SR doesn't work... it is completely your fault.

Writing style is simple, direct, and mixed with posts from social networks, but it is a quick read and there is no need for any additional comment here.

"To buy the book or go straight for YouTube videos?" Honestly now, when I finished with reading the book, I am not so sure myself. When I first started with this book, I was probably for option two, but now I see this book as a good addition to explaining 5SR. The best answers I could give you are, maybe, to wait for a discount or borrow the book first. 🙂

 

No question today, but rather a warm recommendation for my lovely readers: Try testing the 5SR and tell me if it works for you and in which way?🙂

 

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The Why Cafe

 

 

The more time passes, the more I am convinced that people, when it comes to (upcoming) books from category "Populogy" (as I like to call "Popular psychology"... maybe I should make it a ™?) have unrealistic expectations. These books are are constantly getting negative reviews and marks, followed by comments like "nothing new" or "I already know all of this"... Well, if you "know" all of this, why don't you change your life, I ask them. But, they fail to give me any proper answer.

Some books are simply there to remind us about things that we already know, or maybe writer had a desire to share his personal thoughts or experiences with readers, and if someone recognizes themselves in those written words, great. And that's it... at least, that is how I interpret some books. 🙂

John Strelecky's "The Why Cafe" (further in the text: TWC) is not "The Alchemist for 21st century", as some people overexaggerated. I think this book is not even trying to be that nor it can be. "The Alchemist" is the book that... well...it does make some kind of specific impact on reader (I hope that those that had read and understood the book will understand what I mean by this 🙂). "TWC" is more like a pocket reminder (and size is about the same 🙂) for some of the things that we already know. But, that doesn't mean this book is bad, au contraire!

Our hero (John) is the typical citizen of the world, always in rush and hurry. Rushing to find the better job, so that he could make more money to find more things to buy, so that he could find a little bit of temporary satisfaction...

In one moment, he gets (like most of the people) sick of everything. (F**k everything!) He takes vacation, hops into his car, with intention to drive away somewhere and takes break from everything and everybody. Like in real life, he gets even more sick from traffic (F**k everything!) and he decides to drive through unknown side-roads... and (of course) gets lost somewhere in never-land. No GPS, no mobile range, not a single gas station in the view, a almost no gas in the tank. Really a moment to (F*ck everything again!) freak out, and to start kicking your car and cursing all the saints you can remember, right?

And...straight at that moment, in the middle of bloody f...er, nowhere, John finds a cafe.

Right now, this is starting to sound more like a horror movie, and probably no one sane would just barge straight into the unknown cafe God knows where. But, John is very hungry and tired, and decides to test his luck by walking in the cafe.

Well, look at that! A cute cafe, pleasant atmosphere, a few guests, kind and charming waitress, and from the kitchen sounds of yummy food been prepared. John takes the menu to order some food (like eggs, omelets, sandwiches, apple pie etc). But, aside from list of food, John finds on the menu and three questions:

 

"Why are you here?"

"Are you afraid of death?"

"Are you fulfilled?"

 

Not the type of question you need with the salad, right? 🙂 And so, right in this cafe, John gets into conversations with waitress Casey, chef-owner Michael and Ann (one of the guests) about these three questions, with the purpose to discover answers to them. John soon realizes some unusual things that actually motivate him not to ignore those three questions:

  • The cafe definitely has some unusual atmosphere
  • For some reason, the waitress, chef-owner and guest can read his thoughts
  • The waitress, chef-owner and guest (without a doubt) lead more fulfilling life than him
  • The food is brutally good 🙂

And through talks about the three questions from the menu, John is discovering (better to say, starts remembering) that not everything about happiness is a complex nuclear science.

I noticed that impressions about "TWC" are divided (as you probably noticed from the start of this review), with comments like:

  1. Book can be read in one breath
  2. There are no concrete tips and hints
  3. Everything written here was already mentioned somewhere else

Let me tell you something honestly and from the bottom of my heart. Statements 2. and 3. can be found in 95% of these types of books... and I think that is totally fine, since THERE IS NO UNIVERSAL FORMULA FOR HAPPINESS THAT 100% WORKS! But, what is interesting, is that most of us make mistakes with statement 1. And do you know why?

Let me tell you about something interesting that has happened to me and is related to this book. It's true, the book is small and short and can be read in two hours. But...

Due to circumstances (obligations), I read this book for three days. And it was unusual that I had to stop with reading literally the moment I would complete one of three key questions from this book. And then that question (and answers of the mysterious people from the cafe) would be somewhere hidden in my mind during the entire day, occasionally popping up to remind it is still there.

And that is when I (maybe) figured out one of the meanings behind this book. And besides that, there are lots of interesting thoughts worth thinking about.

Writer's style is simple and there is nothing complex about it. Nothing like deep philosophy, metaphysics etc. Some dialogues, stories behind happiness of Casey, Michael and Ann, some John's thoughts and that's it. Simple, right?

And simplicity is sometimes great necessity, right?

To sum it all up, "TWC" is cute and charming book. Maybe it will not reveal us something revolutionary, but it will remind us on some simple (but important) things that we (un)consciously overlook. I especially enjoyed dialogues about fulfillment, and the view on material things.

 

And you, my dear readers, did you have some unusual experience like John? 🙂

 

Link to buy book online - Book Depository

Link to buy book online (Serbian version) - Kafić na kraju sveta – Džon Strelecki

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The War of Art – Borba sa Otporom

 

The War of Art

The War of Art – Steven Pressfield

 

Kao baš, baš mlada osoba, pročitao sam “Ognjenu kapiju” Stivena Presfilda i sećam se da sam uživao u svakoj stranici knjige (a možda bi mogao i da ga ponovo pročitaš jer se ne sećaš romana – prim. podsvesti). I od tada je prošlo dosta godina i gospodin Stiven i ja smo se razišli, sve dok nisam skoro video da internetu ovaj naslov. I učinio mi se zaista interesantnim. Borba sa raznim mentalnim blokadama, koje nas sprečavaju da budemo kreativni i uspešni, ispisano od strane pisca? Moram priznati, pomalo neobično. 🙂

Čudilo me je da još uvek nije bio urađen prevod ovog dela za naše tržište, a nešto mi se nije poručivalo iz insotranstva. Meh, pomislio sam, kada dođe pravi trenutak, knjiga će naći svoj put do mene.

I zaista, nekoliko meseci kasnije, knjiga se našla u mojim rukama. 😀

Uživao sam u svakoj pročitanoj stranici, iz mnogo razloga. Ali, da krenemo redom.

Dragi ljubitelji kafa i knjiga, predstavljam vam “The War of Art”… u slobodnom prevodu, “Rat umeća” (može i “Ratovanje umećem”…ili možda “Rat umetnosti”…kako god 😀 ).

Kome je ova knjiga namenjena? Tebi, meni, vama, svima koji se svakodnevno bore sa svojim strahovima. Prokrastinacija, neodlučnost, nesigurnost, strah od (ne)uspeha.

Sve ove demone, Stiven Presfild je objedinio u jedan pojam – “Otpor” (eng. Resistance, ali obavezno izgovorite ovu reč sa francuskim “Allo,Allo” akcentom).

Kako je ova knjiga zamišljena? Kao zbirka mini priča/razmišljanja/ispovesti, u kojima se Stiven bavi Otporom.

Tekstovi su podeljeni u tri dela (iliti “knjige”):

  1. Prva knjiga (“Definicija neprijatelja”) se bavi Stivenovom definicijom Otpora, njegovim različitim oblicima, kako se on hrani našim strahovima, gde ga sve ima, kako nas svuda prati, kako nas tera da sumnjamo u sebe, da se okrenemo porivima…
  2. Druga knjiga se zove “Borba protiv otpora”. Ovaj deo ima i mali podnaslov “Postati profesionalac”, i tiče se toga kako se profesionalac nosi sa Otporom (Logično-prim.podsvesti). Kako treba biti uporan (da ne kažem tvrdoglav) i istrajan, ne dozvoljavati Otporu da njegova šaputanja dopru do nas i izbace nas iz koloseka.
  3. Poslednji deo, “Iza otpora”, je možda i najapstraktniji. Dotiče se muza (u smislu prizivanja inspiracije), ega, perspektive jednog pisca, autentičnosti, strahova… Zamiliste Brus Lija kada bi se bavio samo književnošću, takav oblik misli 🙂 .

Ali, kakva je ovo u stvari knjiga? Roman, zbirka priča, filozofska rasprava, popularna psihologija možda?

Imajte na umu da je Stiven Presfild, pre svega, pisac. On jednostavno prezentuje teme strahova, inspiracije, i svega ostalog na svoj način. Književni način. Znate kako bi možda bilo najbolje ovo opisati? Zamislite da vas je Stiven Presfild pozvao sa još nekoliko umetnika i biznismena u goste u svoj dom pored obale mora, da uz kafu razgovarate i raspravljate na temu mentalnih blokada (Uh, pre bi za ovakvu temu legla neka žestina nego kafa – prim. podsvesti).

Stiven vam na svoj jedinstven način dočarava teme iz svoje knjige. Spontano, iskreno, prijateljski, sa umećem pisca vrhunskog kalibra, uvlači vas u svoj svet (duhovitih) misli, dok sa uživanjem okrećete stranice i otkrivate neki manje-više poznat, ali opet drugačiji pogled na neke stvari.

Da, već možete da zaključite kakvi su moji utisci o ovoj knjizi. Meni je ovaj naslov sjajno legao. Knjiga je odmah završila na mojoj posebnoj polici sa knjigama kojima ću se uvek vraćati i koje zaista mogu pozitivno da utiču na čoveka (o toj mojoj polici sam, inače, pisao u prethodnoj recenziji 🙂 ). A imam osećaj da ću se ovoj knjizi ponovo vratiti i brže nego što mislim.

Stil pisanja (u pitanju je izvorna, engleska verzija) je lagan za čitanje i uopšte nije naporan, bez obzira na teme kojima se bavi.

Već sam spomenuo da je ova knjiga namenjena svima, bez obzira na godine, vašu stručnu spremu ili vaše zanimanje. Jer, u korenu svega, bez obzira na naša zanimanja, svi imamo zajedničkog neprijatelja. On se svakom od nas, svakoga dana, manifestuje u različitim oblicima i pokušava da nas sputa u našem cilju ka sreći i uspehu. A ime mu je zajedničko za sve nas – Otpor.

 

A da li ste vi, dragi čitaoci, spremni da se suočite sa vašim Otporom?

 

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E, zabole me – Suptilna umetnost življenja

 

E, zabole me

E, zabole me – Mark Manson

 

Od trenutka uzimanja ove knjige u ruke, postao sam oprezan. Takav sam pogotovo kod knjiga koje se bave temama motivacije, lične promene, popularne psihologije, spiritualne transformacije…

Nešto mi je bilo čudno kod ove knjige. Veoma hvaljena, prodata u milione primeraka, a opet kod mnogih kritikovana zbog načina izražavanja autora (dosta psovki) i delova gde autor priča o svojim neuspesima.

Po završetku čitanja ove knjige, sedeo sam neko vreme zamišljen. Onda sam odložio knjigu na jednu policu, sa namerom da je u skorije vreme ponovo pročitam. Inače, polica koju sam spomenuo? To je polica koju zovem “Polica sa knjigama koje treba pročitati pod obavezno bar jednom u životu, a preporučljivo je i više puta, i koje bi mogle da utiču na vaš život”. Znam, znam, dugačak je naziv za policu, ali to je njen radni naziv, give me a break. 😀

Mark je bolno iskren u svojim stavovima, a to nekada nije prijatno čuti. Povremeno je i kontradiktoran. Život je sr**nje, ali zbog toga može biti i divan. Vi niste tako posebni za svet kao što mislite, ali to ne znači da ne možete biti srećni i posebni za ljude bliske vama. U životu treba probati mnogo toga, ali se ne treba raštrkati na sve strane. Zvuči kontradiktorno? Dobrodošli u stvarni svet, ne funkcioniše uvek baš smisleno, ali to je možda upravo ono što mu daje čar. 🙂

Da budem iskren, ova knjiga bi mogla da odvede tekst u jedan potpuno drugačiji smer, koji se tiče tema uspeha, sreće, “life coaching-a” (uopšte ne volim ovaj termin, iako sam i sâm jednim delom u ovoj branši). Ali, trudiću se da ostanem skoncentrisan na samu knjigu.

Mark Manson, na jedan prilično zabavan način, kombinuje humor, psovke, bolnu iskrenost, mračne strane života, inserte iz svog privatnog života, kritiku društva, kao i razne zanimljive podatke. Njegova namera je jasna. Želi da vam lupi šamar (figurativno, ovaj, govoreći). Šamar koji će da vas otrezni i razbije neke vaše iluzije o životu. A taj šamar bi mogao da vam pomogne da se pomerite sa neke vaše mrtve tačke.

Knjiga govori o stvarima kao što su:  zabluda izuzetnosti; kako ne treba sve poteze u životu vući u skladu sa emocijama; kako mi, u stvari, određujemo šta su dobre i loše vrednosti; reakcije na životne tragedije; o preuzimanju odgovornosti; prihvatanju naših mana i ograničenja; značaju rečce “ne”…

Kroz sve ove teme, Mark pokušava da nas navede da probamo da uvidimo šta nam je zaista bitno u životu, kao i kako biti prizimljenija osoba može da vodi sadržajnijem životu.

Verovatno ste stekli utisak da mislim da je ovo knjiga koja menja život, da sam postao Markov sledbenik i da apsolutno verujem svemu što je napisao? Zaboga, naravno da ne, valjda ste do sada shvatili da je u meni i ona skeptična, sarkastična strana ličnosti, koja drži uzde ne dozvoljava mi da odlutam. 😀 Ni sâm pisac nije savršen, niti se uopšte slažem sa svime što je napisao (štaviše, u pogledu mnogih stvari imamo skroz suprotna mišljenja i mislim da ponegde možda i preteruje).

Ali, za neke stvari je bio bolno u pravu, malčice mi je proširio vidike i dao uvid u neke stvari. Takođe, dao mi je i neke dobre ideje. 🙂

Sve u svemu, knjiga od mene zaista ima apsolutnu preporuku.

A znate li zašto?

Svi smo mi kao Ikar. Želimo da letimo visoko i dostignemo mnogo toga. Ako bukvalno shvatite sve napisano u ovoj knjizi, možda vas zalepi za zemlju. Ali, ako umereno prihvatite neke smernice iz ove knjige, možda vas taman dovoljno spusti da ne priđete preblizu Suncu. Ali, i dalje će vam omogućiti da letite visoko i da možda ostvarite svoje ciljeve.

Nebo je granica… nema potrebe da vas baš sprži Sunce! 😀

 

Šta mislite, dragi čitaoci, da l ii vama treba blago otrežnjenje od nekih iluzija koje ste sami sebi nametnuli? 🙂

 

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Najbogatiji čovek Vavilona – Zlatni zakoni kao put do bogatstva?

 

Najbogatiji čovek Vavilona

        Džordž S. Klejson – Najbogatiji čovek Vavilona

 

Ova knjiga se vrti više od 90 godina po svetu. Prvo u obliku pamfleta, gde je svaki pamflet bio priča za sebe, dok na kraju nisu objedinjeni u jednu knjigu. Da li je knjiga vredna komplimenta “bestseler” ili je sve to samo prenaduvana priča?

Hajde da saznamo. 🙂

Kako bi bilo najlakše opisati “Najbogatiji čovek Vavilona”? Možda najbolje kao zbirku simpatičnih, lepo napisanih i poučnih priča, smeštenih u dane sjaja i bogatstva legendarnog grada Vavilona. Junaci ovih priča, kao što su Arkad, Matona, Dabasira i Šaru Nade, prepričavaju nam svoje dogodovštine iz mladosti, koje su ih naučile vrednosti novca i kako taj isti novac treba koristiti da bi se on umnožavao, a samim tim i bogatstvo uvećavalo. O njihovim promašajima i lošim potezima u odnosu na novac i ljude, kao i nekim jednostavnim zakonima kojih su se pridržavali, a kojih su ih kasnije učinili bogatim i poznatim.

Kada završite sa čitanjem “Najbogatijeg čoveka Vavilona”, stičete utisak da niste čuli ništa novo. Mislite, ovde se govori samo o štednji i ulaganju, “nemam ja toliko sredstava za štednju”, “nemam ja vremena ceo život da tako radim, trebaće mi decenije”… I znate šta? Bili biste u pravu.

Međutim… da li ste zaista zadovoljni svojom finansijskom situacijom sada? Ako ste možda postupali po savetima iz ove knjige i niste osetili nikakav pomak, baš mi javite da znam da li je ova knjiga jedna velika prevara ili ne.

E sad, da li je prevara ili ne?

Ja sam odlučio da probam da se pridržavam nekih principa iz ove knjige, u skladu sa svojim mogućnostima. Da probam deo novca da štedim i budem strpljiv i vidim gde će me to odvesti :). S obzirom da živim u Srbiji, ne znam šta bih vam rekao. 😀

Ali, šalu na stranu, pričice su zaista poučne. Ako ste stariji, možda vas i neće naučiti nečem novom, ali će vas možda podsetiti kako treba da uradite neke stvari sa novcem, a ako ste od mlađe fele, sigurno ćete pročitati neke pametni misli.

Arkad će nas podsetiti da bi trebali da deo svoje zarade (bar 1/10) prvo platimo sebi. Da, znam, svi smo pomislili “ali moja zarada cela pripada meni!” Pa… i ne. Morate da platite račune, kupite hranu i odeću, možda vratite neke dugove? A nije baš da možete da ne jedete ili plaćate račune (dobro, ovo drugo i možete, ali nije baš pametno 😀 )? Znači, te pare u startu odlaze od vas, pa i nisu onda vaše, zar ne?

“Sedam lekova za mršav novčanik” je više grupa pravila kako da počnete da baratate novcem. Srž je da, i ako štedite 1/10 zarade, i dalje možete da lepo živite sa 9/10. Mislim da to nije daleko od istine, zar ne? J I kako se treba konstantno usavršavati, da bi se više zarađivalo. Najbolja investicija je ona koju uložite u sebe, zar ne?

“Upoznajte boginju sreće” je priča koja nam šalje jednostavnu poruku. Nije sreća ta koja stvara bogatstvo (mada je i dalje veoma bitan faktor), već da “istinska sreća čeka onog čoveka koji prihvata prilike”. Znači, kada se pruže prilike, ne treba uvek oklevati, već ih treba zgrabiti.

“Pet zlatnih zakona” nam ukazuju da treba da znamo kada da uložimo i u šta. Ako želite da ulažete na berzu, ili naučite sve o trgovanju, ili unajmite eksperta da ulaže umesto vas, ali nemojte da se igrate zverke sa Vol Strita, a nemate predstavu šta je berza.

Suština “Zajmodavca iz Vavilona” se krije u poslednjoj rečenici. “Malo opreznosti  je bolje od velikog kajanja.” Ne budite brzopleti niti previše emotivni sa novcem!

Tu su i priče koje će nas naučiti odlučnosti, kako da budemo pripremljeni za izazove, kao i da nije bitno vaše poreklo i okolnosti u kojima se nalazite, već je bitno truditi se i verovati u sebe.

Sve u svemu, priče su jednostavno napisane, zanimljive i poučne. A da li mogu da nas dovedu do bogatstva, to zavisi od nas.  Ali, prvenstveno od naše od naše odlučnosti, strpljenja i taktičnosti. Bar sam ja to tako doživeo.

A ja ću vam javiti, dragi čitaoci, ako saveti iz ove knjige zaista funkcionišu. Ako za koju godinu budem pisao za ovaj blog sa Havaja, znaćete da funkcioniše. 🙂

 

A da li vi, dragi čitaoci, plaćate deo zarade sebi?

 

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