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Ego je neprijatelj

 

Ego je neprijatelj Ego enemy

                 „Ego je neprijatelj“ – Rajan Holidej

 

(Jedna od) definicija: Ego predstavlja svesni deo ličnosti, deo psihe koji se doživljava kao „ja”. Taj sloj ličnosti upoznaje spoljni fizički i socijalni svet na osnovu racionalnih podataka koje prikuplja putem opažanja, pamćenja i mišljenja. To je deo koji pamti, vrednuje, planira i koji na druge načine odgovara i ponaša se u okruženju fizičkog i društvenog sveta. Za razliku od ida, ego se u ponašanju rukovodi principom realnosti; instinkti se ne mogu zadovoljavati samo radi postizanja zadovoljstva. Vodeći računa o realnoj situaciji, ego, makar zaobilazno, nastoji da omogući zadovoljenje onoga čemu nagonski deo teži. Ego odgađa zadovoljenje, bira prihvatljive situacije i prilagođava instinkte realnim uslovima spoljne sredine. Prema Frojdu, on koegzistira sa idom (nesvesnim delom psihe) i superegom (delom koji predstavlja savest ili internalizaciju društvenih normi). Ego ne koegzistira ni sa ličnošću ni sa telom; on pre služi za integrisanje tih i drugih aspekata ličnosti, kao što su mašta i ponašanje. On posreduje između ida i superega gradeći različite odbrambene mehanizme.

 

Postoje tri vrste egoista: egoisti koji sami žive i daju drugima da žive; egoisti koji sami žive, ali ne daju drugima da žive; i na kraju, egoisti koji niti sami žive niti drugima daju da žive – Ivan Turgenjev

Onaj ko se zaljubi u sebe neće imati rivala – Bendžamin Frenklin

Ego je hobotnica sa bezbroj pipaka, hrani se svim oblicima neznanja – Nepoznat autor

 

Ego je neprijatelj

 

Ego…možda i najveći, a najbliži čovekov neprijatelj (Odmah posle promaje – prim.podsvesti). Onaj koji nas dovodi u iluziju, koji hrani našu aroganciju, ponos, svojeglavost, tvrdoglavost, sujetu, koji nas ubeđuje da smo mnogo bolji i veći (nego što možda jesmo) i da zaslužujemo svet na dlanu. Ovo zadnje, na prvi pogled, i ne bi zvučalo toliko strašno, da ego ujedino tim svojim slatkim, zavodničkim pričama, ne uljuljkuje u nekakvu obmanu, i nije baš da nas forsira da se trudimo da budemo bolji. Moto ega bi mogao da bude: “(Nerealne, grandiozne, samoljubive) reči, a ne (moraju puno) dela”.

Ego se grozi vrlina kao što su skromnost, smernost, odmerenost, strpljenje, posvećenost, nesebičnost… on ih vidi kao slabosti, nešto što ne dovodi do uspona na vrh uspeha. Ironija je što i mnogi mediji, suptilno, podržavaju ovaj stav.

Ego je veoma sujetan. Smatra da je uvek u pravu, da on zna najbolje, i da nikada nije kriv za naše neuspehe. Ne, naravno da on nije kriv. Uvek su (i uvek moraju biti) krivi šef, žena, dete, država, vreme, papa… Kako se rešavaju takvi problem? Pa još više ega!

Ego je ono što može (i najčešće) da odvede u propast, ne samo pojedinca, već i čitave države. Zaljubljeni u sebe i ideju o svojoj grandioznosti, pojedinci donose odluke zarad svojih ličnih interesa, često pokušavajući da ih zamaskiraju “interesima naroda”.

Ego je neprijatelj koji će vas odvesti u propast… ako ga ne zauzdate.

Ali, hajde da više ne ulazimo u teoretisanje.

Tema današnjeg časa je knjiga Rajana Holideja, “Ego je neprijatelj”.

Knjiga je podeljena u tri celine, i ulazi u to kako se ego ponaša kod truda, uspeha i neuspeha.

Odmah da kažem na početku, meni se knjiga veoma dopala. Knjiga nije nikakvo naučno-filozofsko istraživanje niti priručnik za oslobađanje ili kontrolisanje ega. Mnogo je jednostavnije… i zanimljivije. 🙂

 

Ego je neprijatelj

 

Kroz biografije (i konkretne događaje) iz života poznatih istorijskih ličnosti, Rajan Holidej nam, u stvari, daje i biografiju ega. Nemojte pogrešno da shvatite, ovo nije knjiga o životima poznatih. Rajan njih uzima za primer, zatim “razbija” na detalje ključne događaje iz njihovih života i pokazuje nam kako je to kada ego kontroliše nas, a kako je kada mi kontrolišemo njega, usput nam postavljajući neka pitanja koja nas teraju da se zamislimo nad našim životnim odlukama koje smo do tada doneli, i koje ćemo tek donositi. Hoće li nama upravljati neka viša svrha, ili ego?

Proživećemo primere gde je ego odveo u propast, i gde je razum vodio u uspeh i sreću, od antičkih vremena do modernog doba. Pogledaćemo odluke generala Vilijema Šermana, stratega Džona “Četrdeset sekundi” Bojda, Kirka Hemeta iz “Metalike”, MMA pionira Frenka Šemrona, političarke Eleonor Ruzvelt, genijalnog Bendžamina Frenklina, trenera “Nju Ingland Pejtriotsa” Bila Belčika, epigramiste Marcijala, Džekija Robinsona (prvi tamnoputi igrač u Prvoj bejzbol ligi), generala Džordža Makelana, kontrozvernog Hauarda Hjuza, osvajača Džingis-kana, legendarnog trenera “Fortinajnersa” Bila Volša, Džulijusa Granta, Ketrin Grejam (“Vašington Post”) i mnogih drugih…i sve to analizirajući njihove dobre i loše odluke. Kao što vidite, lista obuhvata različite (psihološke) profile ličnosti iz različitih doba, tako da avantura definitivno neće biti dosadna!

Stil pisanja je jako prijatan i prijemčiv za čitanje, zbog čega se knjiga teško ispušta iz ruku.

Ja sam uživao u ovoj knjizi i definitvno ću joj se povremeno vraćati.

Ovo je knjiga za sve generacije i uzraste. Nebitno je da li ste tek na početku karijere, sredini ili na zalasku. Nebitno je da li ste zaradili milione ili imate tek dovoljno da preživite. Obavezno pročitajte ovu knjigu i uzmite malo da analizirate svoje životne odluke (i donete, i one koje ćete tek doneti). I usput pokušajte da zauzdate svoj ego, pre nego što on (i sujeta) unište ne samo vas, već i ljude do kojih vam je stalo.

 

A vi, dragi čitaoci, kakva je situacija sa vašim egom? 🙂

 

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O čemu govorim kada govorim o trčanju

 

     „O čemu govorim kada govorim o trčanju“ – Haruki Murakami

 

Znate, ja zaista obožavam Harukija Murakamija. Ali, zaista.

Volim njegov stil pisanja, kako treba „pregurati“ prvih 20-ak strana svake njegove knjige, kako su njegovi junaci tako nesavršeni, kako svaka knjiga pokušava da se, na svoj način, dotakne smisla života, bez obzira da li je u pitanju imaginaran svet („Okorela zemlja čuda i Kraj Sveta“), svet koji obitava između realnog i nerealnog („1Q84“) i normalan, dosadan, moderan svet („Norveška šuma“).

Međutim, veliki broj ljudi se (verujem) zapita: „A gde se Haruki Murakami krije u svojim romanima?“ Taj neobični čovek, koji ne otkriva puno informacija o sebi. Da li možda utka delove sebe u neke likove i događaje iz svojih knjiga, ili je on samo objektivni, pasivni, nemi „posmatrač“ dogodoviština svojih junaka.

I onda se pojavi „O čemu govorim kada govorim o trčanju“ (u daljem tekstu: OČGKGOT…ma jok, neću da koristim ovu skraćenicu 🙂 ).

Haruki Murkami učestvuje na trkama više od četvrt veka. Počeo je sa trčanjem u svojim tridesetim. Zanimljiva odluka. Bolje reći, lepa (i zdrava) odluka i za njega i za njegove čitaoce. Jer nam je to trčanje upravo omogućilo da malo bolje upoznamo osobu koja se „krije“ iza imena (i prezimena) Haruki Murakami.

Knjiga, koja bi se najlakše mogla opisati kao kombinacija memoara i intimnih beleški, obuhvata period od leta 2005. do jeseni 2006. godine (sa malim „izletom“ u 1996. godinu), kada je učestvovao na nekoliko trka/maratona/triatlona.

Čekaj, hoćeš da kažeš da je ovo knjiga o trčanju?

Ne, ovo je knjiga o Harukiju Murakamiju.

Knjiga o običnom, stvarnom čoveku.

 

O čemu govorim kada govorim o trčanju

 

Teško je reći šta bi bila radnja ovog romana…možda je najpribližniji odgovor – „unutrašnje stanje“ Harukija Murakamija?

Ovde nam se pruža prilika da upoznamo našeg pisca u nekom novom (prvom? pravom?) svetlu.

Da pročitamo njegove misli i razmišljanja koja mu prolaze kroz glavu i srce, kako tokom (ne)zvaničnih trka, tako i tokom njegovih džoging/trkačkih seansi. O okolini kojom trči, ljudima i životinjama koje sreće, njegovoj prošlosti i sadašnjosti… šta ga je podstaklo da otvori bar, a onda da ga zatvori da bi postao pisac…kako mu se telo oseća dok trči… bol, upale, zadovoljstva, blamaže…

Sve u svemu, (pseudo)memoari o trčanju, pisanju, telu, patnji i disciplini.

Moram da spomenem da se u ovoj knjizi kriju i neke duboke, inspirativne misli, poput…

„Trčanje je za mene bila korisna vežba i istovremeno važna metafora. Trčeći iz dana u dan, i sabirajući trke, pomalo sam dizao visinu praga kritetrijuma svog uspeha i, dosegnuvši ga, uzdizao sam i sebe. Bar sam to želeo i na tome sam svakodnevno radio.Naravno, ja nisam neki trkač. Pre sam na nivou prosečng – iili bolje reći osrednjeg – trkača. Mada, to uopšte nije važno. Važnije je da li sam uspeo da bar malo prevaziđem onog sebe od juče. Ako u trci na duge staze postoji neko koga treba da pobedite, to ste sami vi kakvi ste bili pre.“

…ili…

„Ja sam ja a ne neko drugi, i to je moje značajno preimućstvo. Rane na duši su uobičajena cena koju čovek mora da plati za svoju autonomiju pred svetom.“

…ili…

„Pošto i mišići, kao i životinje, žele da žive što opuštenije, ako im ne stavljate teret, samo će im laknuti i izbrisaće ga iz pamćenja. A da biste jednom izbrisanu informaciju ponovo uneli u pamćenje, morate ponovo proći istim putem od početka. Predah je, razume se, neophodan, ali u ovom presudnom trenutku pred trku moramo im pokazati ko je ovde gazda.“

…ili…

„Na sreću, ove dve sposobnosti (koncentracija i istrajnost), za razliku od talenta, mogu da se steknu i ojačaju treningom. Ako redovno trenirate da fokusirate svest u jednu tačku, koncentracija i istrajnost se prirodno stiču. To liči na postupak dresiranja mišića koje sam ranije opisao. Neprestano šaljite svom telesnom sistemu informaciju da je za vas kao biće neophodno da radite s punom koncentracijom pišući svakog dana bez izuzetka, i ono će dobro memorisati. Onda postepeno podižite granicu. Pomerajte je krišom, lagano i neprimetno.“

Duboke i mudre, a opet jednostavne misli, zar ne? 🙂

 

O čemu govorim kada govorim o trčanju Haruki Murakami

 

Ovaj Haruki Murakami je stariji (i ne baš pričljivi) komšija iz vašeg kraja, sa svim svojim vrlinama, manama i ritualima. Ali, kada biste probali da uđete u neki kraći razgovor sa njim, otkrili biste da je (možda i previše i preterano) skroman, povučen, stidljiv, možda čak i prilično nesiguran čovek, koji nema preterano visoko mišljenje o sebi. Zapitali biste se : „Da ovaj možda malo „ne glumi“ sa tom svojom skromnošću? Zar hoćeš da poverujem da je ovaj bogati i uspešan pisac, koji za pojasom ima bestselere, večiti kandidat za Nobelovu nagradu za književnost, zaista tako skroman kao što se predstavlja u svojoj knjizi?“

Osim ako nije majstor obmane (onda mu svaka čast na tome, stvarno je majstor), stičem utisak da je ovo pravi, istinski Murakami. Običan čovek, koga ćete sresti na ulici, kako vodi sasvim običan život.

Ako ste ljubitelj sporta (prvenstveno trčanja), interesuje vas kako je to biti pisac, ili ste jednostavno fan Haruki Murakamija (ili sve troje), mislim da ćete uživati u ovoj knjizi.

A to je dovoljna preporuka za knjigu „O čemu govorim kada govorim o trčanju“, zar ne? 🙂

A možda se i naterate sa otresete prašinu sa svojih patika i krenete sa trčanjem? 🙂

 

A vama, dragi čitaoci, kakve vama misli prolaze kroz glavu dok trčite (ili šetate) ? 🙂

 

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Outlive the life

 

Nadživeti život Outlive the life Kenan Crnkić

                 "Outlive the life" - Kenan Crnkic

 

And it is time for the final book in this trilogy Life-Happiness-Success..

And even now, someone might say: „Yeah, yeah, let me guess. Small rugged book, full of interesting and educational stories/anecdotes, filled with quotations and Kenan’s look on life, happiness, friendship... Is it worth to buy the book full of stories that can be found everywhere?

Let me answer honestly: Yes, book is written in similar style similar to the previous one. Thirty-three stories from all over the world, mixed with quotations and Kenan’s thoughts. Is it worth it?

Yes. Simple as that.

For me, it was especially worth it, because it reminded me on some stories that I completely forgot, and I really needed to remember them. And they came to me in the right moment!

Here we will find stories about bearing with temptations and insults, how to recognize true friends, what in life has price and what has value, why it is worth to muster strength and forigve.

 

Nadživeti život Outlive the life Kenan Crnkić

 

I really believe that stories are there to make children go to sleep faster. But, they also exist to „wake up“ adults. To wake them up from their prisons of fears, caves of lethargy, vicious circles of anger and feeling of helplessness.

Sometimes, one simple story can make a larger impact than any piece of advice.

Although this might be even the best book written by Kenan Crnkic (for me, this book and previous one are in dead heat), this one will also have the shortest review.

The reason is simple. Same as previous books, these are type of the books that you read slow, but think about them thoroughly.

Especially carefully check the section that tells about five different types of people and their view of life.

It looks like there is a reason why his books are popular in region. 🙂

 

And you, my dear readers, what is your view of life? 😊

 

 

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Be careful which wolf you feed

 

Pazi kojeg vuka hraniš Kenan Crnkic

 "Be careful which wolf you feed" - Kenan Crnkic

 

And again, Kenan Crnkic. And again, one lovely little rugged book that you can finish in one afternoon.

And again, some familiar stuff is written here.

And again...a good book that you will often return to. 😊

To be honest, I like this book even more than the previous one.

If previous book ("7 secrets to success") talked about success (obviously 😊), then this one talks about happiness.

But, here you won’t find classical rules/laws/skills for reaching happiness.

But, you will find stories and anecdotes, followed with explanations and thoughts.

Yes, you did read this.

Kenan Crnkic put in this book 26 educational stories/tales from all over the world. I believe you even heard for most of them. And every story is followed by Kenan’s thoughts about how stories could be applied to real life situations.

„Oh well...“, someone might notice. „In regards to previous book, this a collection of stories, that are not even his! Sure, he talks a little bit about meaning behind these stories and that’s it! These stories exist in other books as well, on the Internet...why would this book be special?

The answer could be found in counter-question.

When was the last time you have read a book full of stories and anecdotes, which messages could be applied on daily basis?

 

Pazi kojeg vuka hraniš Kenan Crnkic

 

And what is wrong with reading (and learning) from stories?

For me, stories are great example of life experience. I believe, after first-hand experiences, that stories take second place as great and fast learning material. I can tell you that from my own experiences.

And besides that, as kids, stories were everything to us (until we discovered the world of movies and video games :D). It didn’t matter if some told us those stories or we read them by ourselves. They were our portal into an incredible world. But, they also gave us some valuable (life) messages that defined our view of the world. What is good, what is bad, how to be fair and honest, how to deal with tough people, etc...

And then we grew up.

We replaced stories with cheap news articles, full of illusions and tragedies, with barely any good, positive and inspiring news. Or, we might’ve even stop reading. And lessons about happiness we tried to find through some different channels

Or maybe we even stopped looking for happiness.

And that is the reason why it is good to have this type of book with you.

Someone might say: „Well, this is like a dose of motivation! You read it once and done! What’s next?“

But, it is not said without a reason that motivation is like showering – it is recommended on daily basis. 😀

All in all, this book is written in simple style. And that is perfectly fine and enough.

To be honest, I think I like this book even more than the previous one (Strange, I though I said this before?). And, it looks like there is the reason why entire region went crazy for this book.

Almost forgot! Friendly advice! Definitely try to answer all 77 questions in last chapter of the book. Answer them as fast and honest as you can. You will be surprised with your answers. 😊

 

And you, my dear readers, which you wolf do you „feed? 😊

 

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7 secrets to success

 

7 tajni uspeha Kenan Crnkić

       7 secrets to success - Kenan Crnkic

 

Life quite often (or maybe all the time?) has strange and unusual paths. In the period when I decided to reread and review books written by Kenan Crnkic, a news appeared that the mentioned gentleman will hold the promotion of his latest book and a small lecture in Belgrade, in one bookstore in Knez Mihailova Street.

Malo li je reći da je knjižara bila prepuna ljudi željnih da čuju predavanje, a zatim dobiju potpisanu knjigu i slikaju se sa Kenanom Crnkićem? A oni koji su želeli, mogli su i da po par minuta popričaju nasamo sa njim o temama koje su ih interesovale. Zaista zanimljiv i neobičan čovek, moram priznati, čak i kao da je pomalo mističan…ali, više o tome neki drugi put. 🙂

Da se okrenemo knjizi…

„7 tajni uspeha“ je prva knjiga dr. Kenana Crnića. Knjiga je manjeg formata, nešto preko 100 strana. Hm, zanimljivo… sedam tajni ushpeha smešteno u jedno popodnevno čitanje. Malo? Ili možda taman koliko treba? A i koje su to tajne?

  • Definiši cilj
  • Zauzmi ispravan stav
  • Napravi plan
  • Usvoji pobedničke navike
  • Brendiraj sebe
  • Poveži se (networking)
  • Spoznaj svrhu

Knjiga je prožeta citatima, tehnikama, objašnjenjima, savetima i anegdotama kojima se pokušava objasniti kako da se pronikne u tajne uspeha.

I ovde ću se zaustaviti na samom opisu knjige. Da, da, znate da se uvek raspišem o tome šta se dešava u nekoj knjizi, ali ovde ću napraviti izuzetak.

A sada ću vam i objasniti zašto.

 

7 tajni uspeha Kenan Crnkić

 

Dok budete čitali (a i kada završite) knjigu, možda ćete se osećati blago zbunjeni. Hajde to što se knjiga brzo pročita, nego su i tehnike opisane u ovoj knjizi dosta bazične (i logične), i, ako ste već bili u dodiru sa knjigama iz oblasti komunikacije, motivacije, marketinga ili sličnog, prepoznaćete veliki deo toga i u ovoj knjizi. Ali, ovde stvari postaju zanimljive.

Možda ima veze sa tim što je Kenan Crnić doktor ekonomskih navika i s obzirom na njegovu životnu priču. A možda i nema veze.

A to (poenta) je da knjiga nema „prazan hod“. Dobijate knjižicu koja kao da se trudi što jednostavnije i što više sažme šta je ono što bi bilo poželjno da razumete i uradite da biste bili korak bliže svojoj viziji uspeha.

Svako poglavlje počinje pričicom, koju prati objašnjenje, a zatim je praćeno savetima i tehnikama, a na sve to se prožima i citatima poznatih i uspešnih ličnosti. I lep je (i koristan) detalj da ti citati nisu tu tek tako random ubačeni, već zaista lepo uobličavaju svako poglavlje.

U ovoj knjizi nećete naići na „praznu filozofiju“ ili titranje čitaocu, samo direktne i iskrene činjenice.

Nemojte pogrešno da shvatite, stil pisanja nije „hladan“. Naprotiv, imate osećaj kao da ste se našli na kafi sa piscem, i prijateljski razgovarate na temu uspeha. Opušteno, ali direktno i bez okolišanja.

Knjiga ima i simpatičan detalj, poput ogledala umesto uvodnog dela (što me je odmah asociralo na Napoleona Hila). Pametan i poučan detalj i dobar podsetnik ko nam je najveći saveznik u životu.

Meni se dopalo podsećanje na SMARTI tehniku. Da, dobro ste pročitali, ne SMART, nego SMARTI. Odličan podsetnik kako cilj ne može biti SMART ako nema ono I… hehe, kapirate? Ne? Dobro… uh, ovo je trebalo da bude duhovita igra reči (Humor ostavi meni, nesrećo! Samo se ti drži pisanija – prim.podsvesti).

Sve u svemu, definitivno nije bez razloga zašto su knjige Kenana Crnića veoma popularne i tražene u regionu. Ima nešto u njegovim rečima. U svakom slučaju, pročitajte i sami se uverite.

 

I kako se vama, dragi čitaoci, sve ovo čini? 🙂

 

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The 5 AM Club: Own Your Morning. Elevate Your Life

 

Budni u 5

The 5 AM Club: Own Your Morning. Elevate Your Life - Robin Sharma

 

I have a great respect for Robin Sharma. I really believe that there is great strength behind his words and that he is not (and will never be) one of those that write generic texts in motivational books.

Ever since "The monk who sold his Ferrari", Robin keeps trying to return people on the path of believing in yourself. Some people criticized him that he writes/speaks too idealistically and that is not simple to apply his views of success and happiness on modern world. But, between those motivational writers/speakers that write (literally) fairy tales and fantasies in their books, and others that play on the card of rough (and painful) realism and pragmatism, Robin carves his own path of...let's just call it... "idealistic realism", that makes people like his words/thoughts, but that also makes people believe that Robin's ideas are achievable. And I believe that is the reason why people like and respect Robin.

 

success villa money wealth Budni u 5

 

But now, I will focus on the book itself.

Due to circumstances (or fate), one unhappy lady entrepreneur and one "lost" artist become the students of Mr. Riley Stone, one weird and silly, but then again, zen-calm businessman-millionaire. With the help of mysterious motivational speaker, "the Wizard", Riley Stone introduces two lost souls to the unusual club of early risers, with the goal to shows them how they can as well lead wonderful and fulfilled life, in every aspect of their life. Financial, spiritual, health...you name it.

The essence of this book is complex, yet actually quite simple. In this book, Robin Sharma incorporated all of his knowledge, learning and researches in the fields of success and happiness. And if you dedicate years (more like, decades) to these subjects, you ought to know something, right? 🙂

And everything starts with early rising, a little bit before 5 AM, and the maximum usage of those few hours (before you go to, for example, work or university). Mr Riley transfers all of his knowledge and practical techniques to lady entrepreneur and artist, with the intention to cover all important life aspects, that would lead to perfect life balance, as a final goal. And I think that is something that we all desperately search for.

I have to share something with you guys. Almost 75% of the book didn't impress me. The meaning of early rising, morning exercises, meditation, writing in a journal, sleeping cycles... I already knew all of this, or it was familiar to me from my own personal researches. But... I realized that I should be happy with this discovery! Both Robin Sharma and I (and I believe some other people), on our own ways, came to the same conclusions. This might actually mean that combinations of mentioned techniques could bring us closer to success and happiness. Or (emotional and financial) freedom, if you prefer. And this is also at the same time the great plus for this book!

 

robin sharma motivation coach mentor Budni u 5

 

And the last 50-60 pages...man! The thoughts were so strong, emotional, beautifully shaped and inspirational that, in one moment, I realized that I was smiling I was reading them. And felt some kind of calmness and peace.

The book is well written and understandable, though I would really like to read in original (English) language as well, just to be sure that some words haven't lost meaning in translation.

This is the book that you will often return to, and that will require you patience, so that you can grasp the true essence of some things. I can guarantee you that there is truth behind Robin's word in this book. And lots of it is really applicable and can be quite efficient.

And so, I decided as well to try my luck with joining the 5AM club as well. 🙂

 

And are you, my dear friends, ready to try your luck with the 5AM club? 🙂

 

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The 5 Second Rule

 

 

I think it is the best to start (and also end) the review of this book by trying to answer three most common questions about this book that are buzzing the Web:

  • Should I really read this book if I already saw videos on Youtube about "the 5 second rule" (in further text: 5SR)?
  • Is this book more focused on "copy/paste" of people's posts from Facebook, Twitter and Instagram how 5SR changed their lives (and how they are praising Mel Robbins)?
  • Does the 5SR really work?

Answering the first question is not easy at all, because of one simple reason. 5SR is a simple rule, and the way it functions is simple as well. That moment, when you hear your instinct "whispering" you to do something, that might actually benefit you (your goal or cause), you have to count "5,4,3,2,1" and ACT before your brain stops you with his (its?) dilemmas, fears and other methods that will kill the action. And that's about it!

Mel's 5SR is not some revolutionary discovery. That is something that existed from time immemorial and will continue to exist in future in different forms. Instinctive reaction, "1,2,3 and HOP" or "count to 10 to calm yourself", etc... For me, five seconds Mel is talking about presents:

- Reacting with instinct, before brain rushes in with five million "arguments" why something will not work, and all of this in attempt to protect you (oh, irony of life!). That is why you have "5 second window" before your brain goes rampage with his arguments and rules over the instinct

- Short-term distraction of brain by sending him a note that, by counting backwards, he must fulfill some action when countdown is over. This will temporary stop brain from thinking the ways to protect you (or is it better to say - sabotage you?) from doing something

To answer the second question is even more challenging than the first one. It is undeniable fact, at least half of the book (if not more) are comments from people on social networks how 5SR helped them/changed their life. Is this also the way Mel Robbins is glorified and promoted? Maybe. Mel knows that the best. However, Mel didn't put those comments/accolades randomly. She really did her best to put them in appropriate chapter.

You need to understand and respect one thing. In this book, Mel also speaks a lot about her life failures, and how 5SR saved her from downfall. Also, besides other people's confessions, in this book there are lots of scientific facts Mel gathered about brain (and the way it thinks), procrastination and other. Honestly, you really have to judge for yourself what is the answer to the second question.

 

Pravilo 5 sekundi

 

It is actually the easiest to answer the final, third question (oh, the irony). And the answer is - YES. As incredible as it sounds (and remember, this is coming from person who tries to remain objective and realistic as much as possible when it comes to books about "poppsy" or "populogy", how I renamed term "popular psuchology" 😀 ). And, if you look a little better about this book reviews and marks, you will notice something interesting. Criticism of this book is usually focused on how book might not be necessary because of YouTube videos, how there are too many comments from other people and how they glorify Mel...but I didn't notice that anyone said anything negative about the 5 second rule itself.

And why would they? The rule is simple to use, or as Mel said it better: "To apply the Rule is simple, but I never said it is easy".Your decision/intention to apply the Rule, like for everything else in life, is the decisive factor. Countdown helps, because it clearly shows you that it is certain that you will have to act, no matter how scary it is. But, if you get scared (who said tremble like a chicken? 😀) give or just start saying "threeeeeee, twoooooo, oneeeeeee......zeeeroooo......minus oneeeee.......minus twooooooo" and hesitate, it is not Mel Robbins' fault that 5SR doesn't work... it is completely your fault.

Writing style is simple, direct, and mixed with posts from social networks, but it is a quick read and there is no need for any additional comment here.

"To buy the book or go straight for YouTube videos?" Honestly now, when I finished with reading the book, I am not so sure myself. When I first started with this book, I was probably for option two, but now I see this book as a good addition to explaining 5SR. The best answers I could give you are, maybe, to wait for a discount or borrow the book first. 🙂

 

No question today, but rather a warm recommendation for my lovely readers: Try testing the 5SR and tell me if it works for you and in which way?🙂

 

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The Why Cafe

 

 

The more time passes, the more I am convinced that people, when it comes to (upcoming) books from category "Populogy" (as I like to call "Popular psychology"... maybe I should make it a ™?) have unrealistic expectations. These books are are constantly getting negative reviews and marks, followed by comments like "nothing new" or "I already know all of this"... Well, if you "know" all of this, why don't you change your life, I ask them. But, they fail to give me any proper answer.

Some books are simply there to remind us about things that we already know, or maybe writer had a desire to share his personal thoughts or experiences with readers, and if someone recognizes themselves in those written words, great. And that's it... at least, that is how I interpret some books. 🙂

John Strelecky's "The Why Cafe" (further in the text: TWC) is not "The Alchemist for 21st century", as some people overexaggerated. I think this book is not even trying to be that nor it can be. "The Alchemist" is the book that... well...it does make some kind of specific impact on reader (I hope that those that had read and understood the book will understand what I mean by this 🙂). "TWC" is more like a pocket reminder (and size is about the same 🙂) for some of the things that we already know. But, that doesn't mean this book is bad, au contraire!

Our hero (John) is the typical citizen of the world, always in rush and hurry. Rushing to find the better job, so that he could make more money to find more things to buy, so that he could find a little bit of temporary satisfaction...

In one moment, he gets (like most of the people) sick of everything. (F**k everything!) He takes vacation, hops into his car, with intention to drive away somewhere and takes break from everything and everybody. Like in real life, he gets even more sick from traffic (F**k everything!) and he decides to drive through unknown side-roads... and (of course) gets lost somewhere in never-land. No GPS, no mobile range, not a single gas station in the view, a almost no gas in the tank. Really a moment to (F*ck everything again!) freak out, and to start kicking your car and cursing all the saints you can remember, right?

And...straight at that moment, in the middle of bloody f...er, nowhere, John finds a cafe.

Right now, this is starting to sound more like a horror movie, and probably no one sane would just barge straight into the unknown cafe God knows where. But, John is very hungry and tired, and decides to test his luck by walking in the cafe.

Well, look at that! A cute cafe, pleasant atmosphere, a few guests, kind and charming waitress, and from the kitchen sounds of yummy food been prepared. John takes the menu to order some food (like eggs, omelets, sandwiches, apple pie etc). But, aside from list of food, John finds on the menu and three questions:

 

"Why are you here?"

"Are you afraid of death?"

"Are you fulfilled?"

 

Not the type of question you need with the salad, right? 🙂 And so, right in this cafe, John gets into conversations with waitress Casey, chef-owner Michael and Ann (one of the guests) about these three questions, with the purpose to discover answers to them. John soon realizes some unusual things that actually motivate him not to ignore those three questions:

  • The cafe definitely has some unusual atmosphere
  • For some reason, the waitress, chef-owner and guest can read his thoughts
  • The waitress, chef-owner and guest (without a doubt) lead more fulfilling life than him
  • The food is brutally good 🙂

And through talks about the three questions from the menu, John is discovering (better to say, starts remembering) that not everything about happiness is a complex nuclear science.

I noticed that impressions about "TWC" are divided (as you probably noticed from the start of this review), with comments like:

  1. Book can be read in one breath
  2. There are no concrete tips and hints
  3. Everything written here was already mentioned somewhere else

Let me tell you something honestly and from the bottom of my heart. Statements 2. and 3. can be found in 95% of these types of books... and I think that is totally fine, since THERE IS NO UNIVERSAL FORMULA FOR HAPPINESS THAT 100% WORKS! But, what is interesting, is that most of us make mistakes with statement 1. And do you know why?

Let me tell you about something interesting that has happened to me and is related to this book. It's true, the book is small and short and can be read in two hours. But...

Due to circumstances (obligations), I read this book for three days. And it was unusual that I had to stop with reading literally the moment I would complete one of three key questions from this book. And then that question (and answers of the mysterious people from the cafe) would be somewhere hidden in my mind during the entire day, occasionally popping up to remind it is still there.

And that is when I (maybe) figured out one of the meanings behind this book. And besides that, there are lots of interesting thoughts worth thinking about.

Writer's style is simple and there is nothing complex about it. Nothing like deep philosophy, metaphysics etc. Some dialogues, stories behind happiness of Casey, Michael and Ann, some John's thoughts and that's it. Simple, right?

And simplicity is sometimes great necessity, right?

To sum it all up, "TWC" is cute and charming book. Maybe it will not reveal us something revolutionary, but it will remind us on some simple (but important) things that we (un)consciously overlook. I especially enjoyed dialogues about fulfillment, and the view on material things.

 

And you, my dear readers, did you have some unusual experience like John? 🙂

 

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Link to buy book online (Serbian version) - Kafić na kraju sveta – Džon Strelecki

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ŠAMPION – Mari Lu (Trilogija LEGENDA – Knjiga 3)

 

Champion - Marie Lu ŠAMPION

                               Šampion – Mari Lu

 

(NAPOMENA: Ovo je recenzija treće knjige u trilogiji, i samim tim, sadrži dosta spoilera, tj. otkrivanja bitnih događaja, detalja i likova. Savetujem vam da prvo pročitate recenzije prve and druge knjige. Upozoreni ste 🙂 )

 

Druga knjiga nam je otkrila dosta toga o Republici, Kolonijama, Patriotama, kao i bolno-strastvenom odnosu Dana i Džun. Videli smo kako je Dan stao na stranu Republike i podržao novog Elektora u borbi protiv Kolonija i Patriota, saznao da je teško bolestan i da verovatno neće dugo još poživeti. Stoga je rešio da se distancira od Džun, tako što ju je ubedio da prihvati ponudu Elektora Andena i postane Princeps-Elekt, kao i da njihova veza ne bi imala budućnost, zbog svega što se izdešavalo.

Od tada je prošlo nekoliko meseci. Dan, narodni heroj, sada živi kao slobodan građanin u San Francisku sa svojim bratom Idenom, pokušavajući da se privikne na mirniji život, provodeći dane uz cigarete, lutanja gradom i sve jače glavobolje kako bolest napreduje.

I onda jedan poziv menja sve. Dan dobija poziv da prisustvuje “izuzetno važnom banketu”, gde će biti prisutni svi uticajni ljudi Republike, uključujući i Elektora Andena. Naravno, ovo ne bi bio prvi poziv na banket koji bi Dan samo “iskulirao”, da nije bilo nešto neobično u tom pozivu.

Taj poziv je stigao od Džun lično. Prvi put ga je nazvala posle toliko meseci.

Dan odlučuje da ode na taj banket, koliko zbog Džun, toliko i jer ga je mučio neki osećaj da se tu još nešto dešava (a da nije vezano za divljanje hormona i napaljenost). I od tog banketa započinje emotivno-akcioni rolerkoster na trista strana knjige, koji uključuje:

  1. Zvanična objava rata Republici od strane Kolonija?
  2. Republika mora da nađe način da dobije podršku stranih sila da ne bi izgubila rat, ali po koju cenu?
  3. Iden je možda ključ za kugu?
  4. Džun saznaje da Dan umire?
  5. Danova napaljenost i zaljubljenost?
  6. Džunina napaljenost i zaljubljenost?
  7. Scene seksa?
  8. Tes otkriva Danu svoje prave emocije?
  9. Scene rata i sabotaža?
  10. Scene eksplozija?
  11. Scene revolucije?
  12. Scene izdaje?
  13. Scene raznih scena?

…i još puno toga strašnog i uzbudljivog (Brate, ti kao da najavljuješ sledeću epizodu neke serije, o’ladi malo – prim.podsvesti).

Khm…elem…

Šalu na stranu, ovom knjigom je Mari Lu lepo zaokružila trilogiju. Kao i prethodne dve knjige, nabijena je akcijom i emocijama. Vidimo kako su naši junaci dosta sazreli i promenili su u period dok su bili razdvojeni. Onog naivnog, detinjastog sa početka prve knjige, više nema. Ratovi, revolucije, izdaje i smrti njihovih bližnjih su ih promenili i naterali da za neke stvari očvrsnu. A opet, za neke (emotivne) stvari, naterali su ih da zbace maske i pokažu svoja prava lica. Mari Lu je ovim knjigom zaista pokazala komplikovanost ljubavi dvoje mladh ljudi, koji, iako oboje znaju da se vole, postoje i neki mračni detalji iz prošlosti koji će uvek visiti nad njihovom srećom.

Ni akcija nije izgubila svoj ritam. Mada su Dan i Džun proveli dosta meseci u (relativnom) miru i neaktivnosti, pokazali su u trenucima najveće krize da se neke stvari nisu promenile. Džun je i dalje u duši ostala vojnik Republike, Wunderkind, proračunati borac koji u trenutku analizira situaciju na bojnom polju. A Dan je, i pored bolesti, pokazao da je i dalje heroj naroda Republike, Legend, ekspert za smicalice, lukavstva i sabotaže iza neprijateljskih redova.

A ša se desilo sa našim junacima nakon svih peripetija, eeeee…

Jedan detalj koji će se, verujem, dopasti čitaocima, jeste što ćemo najzad saznati kako se živi i na drugim kontinentima. Konfederativne Nacije Afrike, Antarktika, Evropska Unija… do sada su nam to bili samo pojmovi o kojima nismo puno znali u ovoj trilogiji, osim da nisu toliko siromašne kao što ih je Republika predstavljala svojim građanima (čak naprotiv), kao i da na Severnu Ameriku ne gledaju baš blagonaklono. Sada ćemo imati priliku da nakratko posetimo i Antarktiku, koja na prvi pogled deluje kao savršeno uređeno društvo (ali, da li to samo deluje tako spolja, ostaviću vama da odlučite).

I, da sumiramo. Sve u svemu, debitantska trilogija Mari Lu je ispala jako dobro i kvalitetno napisana. Možda se ovim završila priča o Danu i Džun (a možda i nije, nikad se ne zna), ali otkriće da postoji svet van Republike i Kolonija definitnvno otvara prostor u budućnosti za avanture nekih novih junaka na nekim novim kontinentima.

Što se mene tiče, trilogijom “Legenda” i “BATMAN: Nightwalker”, Mari Lu je pobrala moje simpatije. 🙂

 

I naravno, pitanje za kraj: Kako se vama čini svet opisan u ovoj trilogiji i da li je ovo (možda) izvesna budućnost?

 

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The Prodigy - Marie Lu (Trilogy THE LEGEND - Book 2)

 

UZDANICA Prodigy

              Uzdanica – Mari Lu

 

(WARNING: This is the review of the second book of the trilogy, and contains a lot of spoilers about happenings and characters. I strongly suggest you to read first the review of Book 1. You have been warned 🙂 )

 

The second novel continues more-less where the first one ended. Dan and June managed to escape their pursuers from the Republic. But the price they paid, was too great. Dan lost his older brother (who willingly sacrificed himself to save Dan and June), and there is no information about his younger brother, Eden. June, who discovered the real truth behind her brother's death, turned her back to the Republic and became the traitor.

However, Legend and Wunderkind soon get in contact with the Patriots, who are willing to provide them help, in exchange for their services (cooperation in fighting against the Republic).

And now on the scene enters the mysterious Razor, influential military officer, who is in fact the leader of the Patriots. Our heroes discover that the Patriots are actually financed by the Colonies, with the purpose of destroying the Republic.

Realization that the Elector Prime is dead and is succeeded by his son Anden (who definitely sparked the interest in both Dan and June, but with different motives), creates even more disturbance in turbulent and (now) unstable the Republic. For tired and repressed citizens of the Republic, Dan is the national hero and martyr (people still believe in lie that Dan was executed by the Republic). And now we have even more frequent rebellions against new Elector and the Senate (who are, also, fighting between themselves).

And in those times, Razor and Patriots are giving Dan and June very dangerous missions, with the purpose of saving people of the Republic.

June will have to return to the Republic, get close to new Elector and prove that she is still loyal to the Republic, and that her betrayal was actually in the Republic's interest. If everything goes as planned, she will make Anden vulnerable. On the other hand, Dan will join the Patriots in sabotages against the Republic, while showing himself to the citizens and army, giving them evidence he is still alive and kickin'. All this with one single purpose - assassination of new elector Prime.

I have to admin that Marie Lu kept up the pace in her second novel. Whats more, I think I read this book even faster than previous one. 🙂 And what I liked the most, we are finally getting answers to many questions from the first book.

Finally we will learn why the Republic is so military-oriented, the real truth about what is going on in the state, Republic's relationship with the rest of the world... and things are not some lovey-dovey as the Republic (is trying to present to its citizens (Again I would like to add something...errr, better not - comments of the subconscious mind).

Now we will have the chance to learn more about the Colonies, their way of living, state arrangement, and their view of the Republic.

And let's not forget about our new pals, the Patriots! In first novel we managed to see a part of their potential, but now we will manage to learn a lot and (a little bit) unusual about them.

Of course, cherry on the cake is the relationship between our two young heroes. Large tension... and "tension". They are aware of each others emotions and that they are getting closer. But, there also some undeniable facts that separate them. And additional "spices" are Tess and young Elector. In this novel, the author also paid additional attention to our characters inner (emotional) battles and dilemmas, and questioning everything that has happened to them till now. And when one important event goes wrong...oh boy...

Impressions about "The Prodigy" are positive. Pace of the story is still not going down (now is even more dynamic). Lots of action scenes and (emotional) dramas are now mixed up with details about the world and setup of this trilogy.

What I really like about Marie Lu is that she goes full throttle with descriptions, with sole purpose of getting us even closer with the world and its characters. Now, we can clearly and vividly imagine Dan and June, The Republic, Colonies...

Writer's style is still unchanged (constantly switching between Dan and June)... and let's keep it that way. 🙂

 

Overall, while you are reading this review, I have already dived in final chapter of this trilogy. And after that we will summarize everything. 🙂

 

COMING UP NEXT --> Chapter 3 of trilogy "THE LEGEND"

 

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